All actions results from thought, so it is thoughts that matter.
Are you the kind of person who overthinks and overanalyzes everything so much that you end up working less effectively than you’d like?
The good news is you’re not alone. It’s a trait shared by many, many people–particularly those in leadership. The bad news: it needs to stop, because it’s causing you to be less productive and wasting your time on worry and anxiety.
Here are the top seven ineffective thoughts my coaching clients have reported to me:
1. Worrying whether people they like you or not.
Given any group of co-workers, it’s extremely unlikely that you can please them all. Some people will like you and others may not. Concentrate on doing what you do and doing it well. Don’t concern yourself with what others think and say; stay true to yourself, be genuine, do great work, and let your record speak for itself.
2. Anxious about feeling inadequate and incompetent.
Most of us sometimes have thoughts about not being good enough or smart enough, and few people feel 100 percent ready when opportunities arise. But new experiences and opportunities come to us when we push ourselves past our comfort zone–sometimes even before we’re ready! Don’t allow fears of being inadequate to keep you from what you are meant to do and be.
3. Concerned about being perfect.
I am sure you have heard it many times before, but worrying about being imperfect is a waste of time. As human beings we often chase states of perfection: the perfect job, the perfect workplace, the perfect boss–but that perfection doesn’t exist. Think of life instead as a continual evolution where everything is constantly changing. If you’re feeling stressed and distraught about things not being perfect, let it go and move on.